Thanks everybody for validating my frustration. This was one of those constant-low-level-frustration weeks that are so hard to explain but hard to live through. It made me feel like I had fallen away from my path and worried that I wouldn't find it again.
House issue is currently resolved. I had to call in help from STBX but not for anything I'd need him for when I have my own place.
i was a TERRIBLE "save my marriage" DBer. When I see what people like T0324 and GoatGal and 25yearsmlc (where is she by the way?) did and do to give their marriages a fighting chance and compare it to me, I wonder how things could have been. I was and am a "pull my own self together" DBer. Which certainly HAS made me a better, stronger, happier person. I have no idea if STBX can see that but others definitely do.
I will be so glad to put all this behind me. I have a lot of positive opportunities on the horizon, just need to get moved past this stuck place. My housing arrangements remain an open concern, but I'm sure that will resolve itself in due course.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15