Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

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MCS-thanks for checking in. no I am not seeing an IC anymore. When I left GA and moved to TX, I started seeing a different IC here, but didnt like her too much so Im somewhat in the process of looking for one. To be honest, Im not sure what I would talk to them about so Ive been hesitant about actively seeking another one. I feel like by just keeping busy, i am doing ok

Just writing a short update tonight, going back out in the field for a week so I'll be away for a while again.

Work is going well, though I find myself sometimes taking my frustrations out while Im at work. I yell a lot more and curse all the time. But...because I'm in charge and this is the Army, it works. I find myself a lot more efficient and my Soldiers are more efficient because since Im so irritated and frustrated, I don't let very much slide, and ensure that whatever needs to be done is done. I don't have the patience for BS so when I don't like something, I fix it or have it fixed on the spot. I just have to be careful this doesn't translate over to my M.

W and I are doing better. Its been a really good past few weeks, even more so than before. She calls me all the time and actually started face timing me out of the blue. My DB Coach and I set 3 goals for me these last/next few weeks and I am slowly reaching them so it feels good.

1. Introduce SKYPE/FACETIME to our convos
I haven't actually had to even initiate this, W just randomly started FACETIMING me throughout the weeks so its nice to have my W actually cover down on one of my goals..
2. Have at least 1 serious/deeper conversation every week so there is some substance to our talks
We managed to talk about religion for 5-10minutes the other day, something we rarely do, and continue to talk about it every now and then. Also started inquiring about my W's career aspirations/dreams and asking her more questions, versus giving her advice
3. Don't answer her phone call and don't return it one time in the next couple weeks
Ok I haven't done this one yet. Ive missed her calls but always return them. This goal was more to just keep W on her toes, and not be super available

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W is actually going to her internship tomorrow, she finally decided to go. I have mixed feelings about it, but I told myself Id just trust God to make the right choice, so if this is what she made, then I trust in it because she's told me she prayed for some guidance too to help her make the best choices. I am honestly not sure she will stay there the entire time, something in the back of my mind is telling me she will stop early, but who knows.

One only drawback these past 2 weeks is I started looking at our phone bills again =( And I know she calls me a lot but also talks/texts OM...I will try again really hard not to look at these phone records because it doesn't make me feel good and really doesn't do anything for me. I will just continue working on me, doing well at work, and contuing to improve me, right now, its cooking class. Hopefully, things continue to go positive..

Well, going to bed soon, off to the field starting tomorrow. Hooray for no weekends!