To Pursue or Not

[MrBond]

"I'm guessing she meant horny"

You mean YOU meant horny. You do understand that if you want to be a woman, that sex isn't the most important part of sex, right?

"and not so much that she misses me. She didn't mention wanting to move back in or live together."

Of course not. Especially if you haven't put in any effort to attract her emotionally.

"Then my gambling/poker addiction (not a financial burden), life, and children seemed to change things. Slowly but surely less romancing, but still ML. ML seemed to be our cover up/fix issues we didn't resolve between us."

Women need the romancing. That was YOUR fault here. If you just go right in and expect sex, that's exactly what it is SEX. It's no longer making love because that would mean there was love involved.