Your spot on. If I truly detach myself from the situation and look at it objectively I stopped loving my wife a long time ago. If I'd truly loved her I wouldn't have strayed and I would have been more supportive. It's hard to say but it's true. We've talked today and tonight and talked more openly than we have in many years. All this time it is just my pride and ego getting in the way of me letting go. The sad part is we could have saved our relationship years ago when there were first signs of trouble. I could have been more supportive and communicated with her in a more open and honest way. My wife could have told me she felt insecure and was having feelings for another man and we could have stopped it. Non of this matters now. All that matters now is how we raise our d8 There's nothing to give up on. We both already gave up years ago. It still hurts but we both feel calmer after talking. I don't blame her for her affair. Yes she crossed a line and continued to do so. Yes she could have and should have come to me but she didn't because she probably felt she couldn't. If she felt safe and secure with me then she wouldn't have made that connection with OM. Same goes for me. Life goes on and we are still a family just one that will live in separate houses.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
