Originally Posted By: TSquared2
This is interesting...why is that, that you don't mind?

Is it because that is all that is left of your former provider/protector role, those last shreds of something you cherished, and will not let go of?

That maybe you are having problems transitioning from that role? ...

But she fired you. ...


So its the Jekyll/Hyde mind I have. It would be good to have W go forward with the divorce and find someone to take good care of her. I'm ok with that, and the day the divorce papers are signed, I would quickly move on.

But... until then, I want to be the guy to take care of my W and kids, and live the life we always dreamed of. Oh yeah, you're right. W "fired" me from that ever happening. The only responsibility I have with W now is paying the monthly Child Support. So I don't think that I am stuck trying to provide for W. Instead, I hope to be that guy again.

Originally Posted By: TSquared2
...There is an addictive quality to how ours spouses were and our reaction to them other the years... are you waiting for just another hit/fix?


So my thought problem right now is what you describe as the "addictive quality" of our WAS's. The last time I ML to my W was last Valentine's Day (9 months after we separated). I can't stop thinking about the possibility that there will be some sort of "Same Time Next Year" ML reunion with my W this Valentines.

I've been busy at work with some interesting cases, but it's not enough to get my mind distracted. YES, I am waiting for just another hit/fix of my W!


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace