Just adding to what Starsky said above ^^^ and if your W's are anything like my W they will become very upset when they learn or see for themselves the Changes you try to make.
My W was so incensed that I was trying to better myself she ranted around the house for 3 hrs berating me for doing things that made me look better than anybody.
I calmly answered "I am doing this for myself and nobody else but thanks for noticing."
Then she really got mad.
Best thing about it is these changes have stuck and 20 months later I feel great about myself.
