My Story

[Joe46]

So here is the most confusing thing about all this, a couple weeks ago we had a talk and I told her about how I was tired of living in separate bedrooms. I told her I was done and had enough. This is not what a marriage should be. We had a long talk and she cried and told me about alot of the things I have done through our relationship that have hurt her and how certain things made her feel. I just sat there and listened and apologized to her. She was right about what she said. Than the weird thing happened. I thought she would ignore me for a few days like normal. Instead she texted me later that night while she was working and said we should go to lunch the next day. She said good night and I love you. I was kinda shocked. So ever since than I have been getting a hug before she goes to work at night every once in awhile. I have also got a few more texts saying she loved me. Yesterday I got one in the morning saying " hope you have a good day. I Love You". These kind of texts have not been happening for quite awhile. I figured after our talk that things would be way worse. So lately I have been working hard on trying to be a more loving husband. I have left her notes of how I appreciate her once in awhile. I have texted her once in while to let her know I loved her. I have been wearing my wedding ring also. I'm not sure if it matters or not. I have never worm it the whole time we were married. The only reason was I did not like rings. But I can't really get upset at her if she would stop wearing hers if I am not wearing mine. Plus it may have bothered her and she never said anything. This whole mid life stuff and these issues are so confusing. I don't know if I am doing this right or not. I do know since I started doing these things to show her how much I care and appreciate her, things have been slowly getting better. In the past I have not done these things. Maybe this is my 180?