I would like to ask my H for a status update regarding his plans to move out. Before the retreat, I had agreed to separate, and he was working on getting a place to live but had run into some issues that was delaying his actual move out. He was very cold towards me in our day to day interactions for about 4 weeks after D day, and a few times he pressured me to discuss the specifics of our separation, which I mostly avoided. Then we had our retreat, and during the retreat, he did not mention anything about his plans to move out, in fact we didn’t even mention the word separation or divorce. After the retreat, he once briefly mentioned he was still having issues with his moving situation, but nothing else about the separation. That was three weeks ago, with no conversations about our separation. We just do the same song and dance, living in the same house, playing with our D, and just being civil. This week he has been rather friendly, and he instigates conversations. I don’t think he wants to reconcile, AT ALL, but would it be wrong of me to ask…exactly when does he plan to move out? This limbo feels very strange, sleeping in the same bed and all.
Should I just keep my mouth shut? Or can I respectfully ask him what his plans are?
Me:30 H:31 D1 T: 7 years M: 3.5 years BD: 12/2014 3 month S starts: 2/2015
