It does sound like you are super busy, but I would nudge this closer to the top of the list - even a phone consult if possible. The fact that your H wants you to leave the family home, and move to an apartment (where he may or may not help you with the rent) while he becomes the primary caretaker for the kids (while working full time) - well that's a pretty unusual scenario - even for these boards. I would be concerned that he even sees this as a viable option, therefore I would urge you to get legal advice sooner than later.
