Hi T^2, I am messed up, and by this I mean my mind is a mess. Yes, I now understand that prior to BD date when our house was going thru foreclosure, and I had serious health issues, W should have stepped up and helped us (me and the family) to deal with our housing issues.
And W after moving out, she should have obtained a real job. She is dependent on everyone else around her to provide for her needs (including d17 and s13 who live with her).
So why do I say that I am messed up, even with this healthier understanding of my past? B/c I don't mind that W is a gadfly, and perhaps is looking for a "sugar daddy" (no mind-reading by me here, I don't know what W is looking for.) I appreciate her for her other strengths.
But what is really crazy is that my W says a nice "thank you" to me yesterday, and I am thinking about reconciling with her, and dating her, etc., with no evidence that W is even slightly moving back toward me. I even want to snoop her again to see if I can find out that W is getting off the dating websites (yet knowing that is likely not the case). Stop it Wet!
