Wife Wants Out

[Joe46]

I just joined here recently myself. I have been dealing with this stuff in the wrong way for quite awhile. I am definitely no expert. I did alot of snooping on my wife when she started acting funny. I know I made it worse, but it was so hard. I have felt so much better the past couple months since I stopped snooping and just started working on myself. One of the best things I read was from someone else that said he acted as if he was living his own life with out his spouse. I just started accepting the fact that if she is going to cheat, she is going to cheat and I have no control over that. She will have to answer to God for that and her kids if they found out. I have felt so much better since I quit snooping. My relationship has improved a ton. I have been able to work on myself and my confidence has come back. I decided that I really want my marriage to work, but I want to become the man that my wife would want to be with. I am working hard at becoming the type of man I want to be. I have never been a snooping man in the past. I guess I have decided that if I can become the man I want to be in my marriage and she still leaves or cheats, it is her loss and someone else's gain. Eventually the truth always comes out. At least since I have been making these changes in myself, it has gotten her attention. Now she has something to really think about. Snooping was also feeding my negative thoughts of my wife and made me feel less confident about myself. I pray everyday for God to give me strength and to help me with the hurt. He is definitely helping me. Not sure if anything I said helps, but I wanted you to know that I am in the same boat. Still just rowing along!! LOL!!