What I meant about the sadness angle is not that you shouldn't be sad or that you shouldn't vent about sadness but that it seemed you were not hearing the advice you were given and were instead hiding behind "I'm sorry I'm so sad" kind of like an excuse. Of course we are all here for similar reasons so we get it! I'm sad too sometimes and it blows. I get it.
In a way I think the feedback is not really so much about what you are saying on here but more about how what you say on here reflects on difficulties you might have with your marriage or with DBing. In other words, think about how you react and interact on these boards and how that might also apply to your situation.
We are here for you to vent and we empathize! I've read many many posts of people saying they have been crying and depressed and they get propped up and supported. So I do not agree that angry posts are favored over sad ones. But maybe I am wrong or maybe you need to read more of the ladies' posts haha.
I think what Mozza said was very funny, it sounded a little harsh but it made a good point that actually rang true with me! You will read on these boards a lot not to believe everything the WAS says and in fact not to put too much stock in any ultimatums or pronouncements they make. Just a small example in my own situation, my H told me at BD that we had to part ways because we have nothing in common and want different things. Two months later he told me we should be friends because we have so much in common and think the same way about everything. Ummmm...ok. At BD he told me he didn't respect me. Three months later he was going on about how much he respects me and how he tells everyone how amazing I am. And when asked about many of the things he said around BD he denies having said or even thought them. So .... don't listen to everything she says. Let it wash over you like water on a duck's back.
That being said, if she says something specific about the relationship that she didn't like, take it and put it in your pocket to work on. That's a 180 for you.
