I should also say that our sex life up to that point had been boring. Between BD1 and BD2 I tried to do things to spice it up (massages, flirting, pecks on her neck, etc.) But she was turning cold then.
This is very typical. A woman, especially, will (as sick as it sounds) feel like she's CHEATING on her OM if she makes love to her own husband. Or they will have sex, but won't kiss their husband on the mouth (I've never seen this with men, but very typical with women .. kissing is a high form of intimacy to them).
Whatever she's doing, she's probably doing 5x more of it during the day. That's where I would focus my efforts, but only SECONDARY to your own self-improvements.
