Hi Barry. So sorry you here. Just a quick post to let you know that many of us feel exactly as you do re the sadness. My W left 4 months ago and I still ache with the loss. I have DBed as per the books but also using the advice of my life coach I have been the best me I can be. My W left myself and four kids, put herself on the poverty line and is talking suicide at the moment She has an OM who has plenty of problems of his own and she tells me almost daily how crap her life is This woman was my best friend for /25 years and I trusted her with my life I long for her to come home and join the family but that's not on the cards at the moment
Sorry got off the point. You pain and sadness are very real and you have your beliefs re your W and the chances for your R. What the vets and others are trying to do is give you the tools to help you deal and take the shovel off you so you don't dig the hole any deeper.
I love it when one of my DB friends gives me some hope but there is a reality to all our sitchs In your case your W is not who she was and doesn't want an R with you. None of us have any idea what's going on in their minds , maybe your W is gone forever maybe not but are you not better dealing with the sitch day by day.
I feel your pain , I really do , I was so sad last night it was painful but today is a bit better I will be happy again one day and so will you.
Post often and the vets will offer some really helpful advice ( like toots I don't get their attention but I presume they have nothing to offer) and people like me can offer support
Stay strong and look at the positives in your life. Take care Rd
