I totally get what your saying about how sad/pathetic it is that you W can't share her love story vacation.
I sometimes think that I wonder what my xH and his girlfriend tell strangers "their love story" is about how they met. They all most come up with creative ways of rewriting things.
Denial is a powerful thing.
Look at Bill Cosby still believing his own lies. And he got away with them for decades.
I know when my W and I first met and fell in love, she was so eager to introduce me to her friends and family as soon as possible. I know that's the kind of person she is, so I am sure that not being able to do that is contributing to some of her depression -- on top of whatever other issues are contributing to her depression. I just can't imagine that having to lie and sneak around can really be that much fun... But I've never done it, so I really don't know what it's like.
I noticed this morning that she is back to her previous pattern of sleeping late in the mornings (which means I am 100% in charge of getting kids off to school), so I am also assuming that she is up all night with OW (on Skype, texting, whatever) and falling back into her previous level of depression (pre-trip) which means if Monster isn't back just yet, she will be very soon. I say I assume she is up all night because I am not bothering to get up in the middle of the night to check anymore. I need my sleep and I really just don't care now.
Today I am trying to focus on the job search but also need to work on some co-parenting agreement stuff before she and I meet on Monday to discuss it. I know she also wants an update on my employment situation because that impacts when I can look for a new place, so she isn't going to be happy to hear that I am still trying to get in for an interview and that there is no new job in hand just yet. So whatever... maybe I'll borrow one of CaliGuy's spew jackets :-)
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
