GG, BK, BF, and Bea-thanks for dropping by. I appreciate your thoughts. Bea, you are 100% correct. You aren't raining on my parade-like RiRi, I'm standing under my umbrella, eh, eh, under my umbrella. HG and I actually have several things in common (we are both loners-big time) and he IS damaged. He has had 2 relationships. He was engaged and she cheated on him with several of his coworkers and "friends" ( he actually walked in mid relations) and he still works with her. He said he has never spoken to her since he walked in on her and the "friend." The other was someone his friends set him up with. He came home one day and she had taken his dog that she gave him and left a note saying she had been pregnant, had an abortion, and wasn't sure if it was his. I don't think he has dealt with any of this. He just refers to it as having been through the "ringer." Oh, and he is exceptionally close to his mother. As in, they speak several times a day and he references her frequently. While a healthy R with a parent is good, my radar goes off on those guys whose Moms think they literally "hung the moon' and several sentences begin with "my mom said...."
Well, had a bit of an awkward exchange with X Mr. GB this am. He hasn't seen or spoken to kids in over a week. He gets there this am and walks back to the BR where I am getting ready. He sits on the bed and proceeds to tell me a new hire at his office used to be an assistant to the owner of a particular pro sports team and told me some stories. While these are things ex Mr. GB and I would discuss, it was strange as I was getting dressed and he just sat there. (I moved to the back of the bathroom to change shirts.) I looked at him for a minute-he looks haggard, skin broken out, and I have thought this for some time. I know this is mind reading and I also just "know" he misses something about me. The stuff we used to share-just funny stuff.
And to kick up the awkward another notch, I walked into LR and S5 said (in front of X Mr. GB),"Mommy, you and daddy love each other but you just aren't married, right?" Some of you may disagree with this although I just try to be as honest as possible without undermining or being hurtful, so I said, "Buddy, I think once at the rodeo of marriage was enough for Mommy. As I told you guys, I would like to meet a good person and have a R, but I think I will pass on marriage again." Ex Mr. GB said, "I just don't like discussing this S5." Of course he doesn't. He can speak for himself. I frequently tell my kids (because they always ask me about getting married) that I would like to meet someone one day and have a R, but marriage is not something I am interested in again...I of course could change my mind, although maybe not. Can't control the future. You hear that GB???? You can't control the future.
Trying to decide where to go for Spring break. Happy Friday! To all of you struggling, hang in there:)
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3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer