Thanks GB. I'm in this club too - the 6+ month no kids dark or dim contact ladies...is there an acronym for that? From your posts, you both sound like fabulous people, and I'm sure life going forwards will have lovely things to offer.

Ive decided to do a little more reading recently. That helped me in the early stages and I haven't done any for a while. I've just ordered Jim Conway's MLC book. I'm not sure if H is having an MLC, but I figure I may as well cover all the bases!

I may also have a look at LL and NMMNG - as my H was a classic people pleaser. He's gone from that to self absorbed and a bit snappy..

Keep up the faith ladies!

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus