To answer your Qs... yes I have read DB & DR & sandi's rules, all great stuff. Because W's EA is ongoing and so serious (no desire to work on M), it was clear to me I had to dive straight in to LRT unfortunately .
Me: 35 W: 37, S11, S8.
W says she hasn't found me physically / sexually attractive for years but didn't say as she knew it would hurt me. She does feel those attractions towards OM, also a deep emotional connection (they think the same, apparently **pukes** ). W says she and I are very different people.
I'm very up and down at the moment, some days feel ok then she 'goes out' for a few hours (blatantly to see or phone OM) and the anger and sickness come back with a vengeance.
Will take the advice and answer "good", which is actually true in some ways. My GALing has been fun (seeing friends, exercise, great times w the kids, sorting through stuff and chucking out old junk from the house). My 180s are stopped cleaning up after her, fawning over her, initiating conversation etc.
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