Wow. The change in your relationship is truly amazing.
Have you discussed going to counseling to learn how counseling can be used as a bridge to move toward your new marriage? Again, I cannot stress the importance of enlisting a counselor. It will help you both learn how to communicate effectively.
But, that doesn't stop me from applauding you. Based on your wife's response, it appears you are doing a great job with your communication skills.
The only thing I would caution against is using negative language to describe your marriage. Using words and phrases such as, "our old marriage is dead and gone" could backfire.
(I recognize that you didn't actually say this but since this phrase was indicated in your post I'd like to use it as a teaching point.)
When you use a phrase like, "our old marriage is dead and gone" what you probably mean is, "we messed up our old marriage so let's not replicate it."
But, in reality, what you actually said was, "I'm finished with that part of my life." And, when we make statements like this we fail to take into account the spouse was a part of our lives in our "old marriage." So when we say something like, ""our old marriage is dead and gone" they could be hearing, "who you (my spouse) were during that relationship is also dead and gone."
This could bring disastrous results from uneasiness about the reconciliation, "it is dead and gone why do I want it back?" To instant defensiveness, "Hey! I wasn't THAT bad in our marriage!"
