So I had a session with my MC today. W is away in Cancun with her "girlfriends" until Sunday or Monday. I've decided to tell her when she gets home that I cannot live in limbo anymore and need to know if she is ready to reconcile. And we'll get together on Friday for her to give me an answer. In the meantime if she needs to talk to our MC or someone she has time to mull it over. If she chooses to reconcile then that means full transparency, counselling, physical intimacy and a lot of work at fixing the marriage. If she chooses not to reconcile then it's over and we move on, but I cannot take this limbo anymore.
I'm moving back home on Sunday night. I've hire a couple of people to do the nights at the RH which W used to do but I've been doing since end of November. I want to sleep in my own bed again. I can't take it anymore and I'm willing to pay people to do the night shifts - mostly sleeping. Sure it's costing my corporation a few bucks but my sanity is worth it. And W's corporation is not hiring them - mine is. So she has no recourse to blame me for hiring behind her back, even though I've been running the RH since November at the same time as running my own business.
I'm now at the end of my rope. This is the After The Last Resort technique. I'll let y'all know how it works out. My MC doesn't think her choice will be reconciliation. There will be much crying and gnashing of teeth. She'll say I'm pressuring her. That I'm only concerned for my own agenda. But I will be firm and say that it's been a year and I cannot live in limbo anymore. And I'm prepared fully for any eventuality that may propagate from this so-called ultimatum. But I'll deliver it just from my own authentic feelings that I cannot live in limbo.
My hope is that she decides to reconcile. But it could go either way. I just need to be gentle and calm and loving and firm. I've done a lot of work on myself over the past year and I'm proud of my progress and comfortable in my own skin. So whatever happens I'm ok with. I'll be ok. The pain will go away. I deserve to be loved. Whether it's my W who ends up loving me or someone else, I'll be ok. I just need to give love.
Last edited by PeterV2; 02/06/1506:59 AM.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
