Sorry to find you in this heartbreaking situation. You are on the best site you could be on to help yourself and maybe even save your marriage.
At this point you have found that there is a possibility of an EA. IMO I would not snoop anymore. The reason I say that is for your own sanity. This is my second time DBing and I played private detective the first time around and I can say all I did was mess up my head by the things I found out abt her affairs. You want to DB mostly to help yourself and it would be easier if don't know the details. I thought I could snoop and DB, but I did too much backsliding when I found hurtful things she was doing. My first go around was successful, we ended up getting remarried a couple yrs after the D. I am back here again because of several reasons, but one of the major reasons is I got lazy and forget to use what I learned the first time.
Try your best to follow Sandi's 37 rules, I read them every few days to help me stay focused.
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
