It is like she's a different person. And it all changed over the period of a month.
Leon,
Wow, hate to chime in here, but reading quickly; this is my sitch all over again. Everything just fine than BAM lie a totally different person in every aspect. Personality, kids, friends, everything.
Hate to do it, but I was same boat.....no way of an A, then we'll maybe an EA, then friends started to piece things together, then I started looking and saw it. Over 30 different things I saw.
Confronted, denied; but I had so much proof that I kept pushing her. Finally she confessed. She was having an A for more than a year. Going out with him in her lunch hour and her days off from work. I thought it would be a deal breaker too, but I then realized I was still in if she made some huge changes.
I thought after confrontation and confession, we could start working on M, but like Starsky said, the emotional connection for women is more poisonous than anything physical. Goes against a guy's mentality. Her OM didn't leave his relationship and it seems she's still hanging on trying to get him to leave and go with her.
We don't mean to beat it into your head, but trying to prepare you. Also......do not let her know how you are looking. Starsky told me that and like an idiot, when we were being 'honest' I told her how I found out. Then boom all of those loopholes closed up and communication wnet to nothing.
If you want, go back and read my thread "I thought everything was okay". So similar. I had a scripted fight set up from her. It was a normal night, then some little thing we were discussing than "I'm checking out of the marriage" my main struggle has been the personality change, it's been so difficult.
Starsky is right, my W took the A to the next level (or tried to anyway) about 1-2 months before BD. I think that's the guilt ticking time bomb that is so prevalent. The WAS can't keep up with lies. Sorry that we are all downers on this.
Hang in there, we're all here for ya.
Last edited by MCS; 02/06/1504:01 AM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
