June, don't give up on yourself! You may have to let go of the rope more though to save your own sanity. When substance abuse is involved I think It multiplies the complications of a situation.

Force yourself to focus on getting out of the house. Even if you do it alone, it's better than doing nothing.

IMO I would not give him money to move out.

Find something to do that you like and do it asap!

You are important!

M 53
W 44
D25 D20 S22
PA 10/95
BD abt 2k EA
BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05
DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005
XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005
Remarried 12/28/07
BD 12/18/14
Sep living together