As for the relationship talks, I'm not sure it's a good idea.
You seem to be building your positive communications which is really good. Rather than thinking about the end goal what do you think the next step would be?
Maybe another nice day out like your ikea trip? Or maybe its engaging more with W over the schooling?
Sorry if you've said and I've forgotten but do you know your WS love language?
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress