Starsky309 is very right. If you read around here, you'll see that plenty of us have been told that our WAW had an affair when we didn't know or think they didn't. Yet, the truth came out. In my case, she was leaving me "to be alone, to find her true self, not to be in a couple", etc. Of course, she had an OM. Card29 found out after the 7-month affair was over and he was D. In fact, it's a classic script here: rookies arrive, say they don't think there's an A but there are a few signs and then after a few weeks or months, are flabbergasted that their suddenly nice-dressing and nice-smelling wife had someone. The change in attitude is also a big one. Oh and what about her cellphone? Could it be that she spends more time on it? That she's more secretive about it recently?
We don't know, but we've seen plenty of people in your situation and I still don't know one that didn't discover an OM later. It could be something useful to know (don't just ask her, she will deny and cover her tracks). Also, start thinking about your reaction.
Welcome to the boards, by the way.
Thanks!
Wow! I was typing my reply to Starsky309 when your post showed up. I guess I am going to have to do some more digging and see what comes up. And think about my reaction.
Now that I think about it there are some other behaviors that I have noticed. Maybe some of you vets can look at:
Yes, she's very protective of her cell phone. I am able to get to it at times and so far have not found any hard evidence.
However, there was a message to her sister about looking for good wines. At the time, I didn't think much of it because she likes to drink wine. But it is suspicious now.
She originally accused me of having an PA with a MALE friend of ours.
Her attitude towards me and the kids is different now. Before, she was super protective of the kids. Now she doesn't seem to care what they do. She gets irritated if they ask her for something.
I asked and she outright denied having an A with anyone.
She has taken treats to work (more than enough for herself).
Knitted a mini-sweater (she said it was a gag gift) for a male co-worker this past Christmas.
