I would suggest that she set you up for the fight on Nov. 14th -- it's classic script -- to justify an affair that she had already begun.
Would that be a dealbreaker for you?
I'm not suggesting this to upset you, but rather to get you to dig a little further to find out what you're up against, and to also use this time to determine what your OWN core, non-negotiable boundaries are. Many of us thought, for example, that we could NEVER be married after our wives cheated on us, but when faced with it we made it thru the other side, better than ever.
Starsky
Right now I feel that a PA would be a deal breaker. But that could change.
I also did some snooping (I now know it violates the rules) and found no hard evidence that would indicate that she is cheating (no texts, calls, etc). So if she is, she is covering it up VERY well. But like I said, I definitely think that she has her eye on someone. And a strong possibility of an EA that may turn to a PA, but that's it. I can handle an EA.
She rarely goes out, so the only time she could actually do something would be during the day while the kids are at school and I am at work. Is it possible? Absolutely.
The other thing I noticed is that she is becoming more and more protective of her cell phone (again, no strange texts or calls though). She even takes it into the bathroom when she showers! When I am able to peek over her shoulder and see what she's doing, she is usually browsing something related to salsa music.
