Its tough to accept that the old person is dead and now you have to figure out if you want any kind of relationship with the new person. It is extremely difficult to not expect them to act and react like they used too. Yes it is very hard to bury that person.
Maybe a symbolic burial would help you for closure. Maybe you could make an effigy of the old husband and then burn it in a funeral pyre ( bonfire) in you back yard. Like spread the ashes of the person,
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"