Regarding w wanting to be friends yes I get that feeling too, it does make me wonder is that why she's not moving on at all since i ve made it very clear even pre bd that its not an option if we move toward divorce. To be fair I dont want to lose her as a friend either I just know I can't be friends with her and then watch her move on with her life esp romantically without me I'd never move on in my own life.

Of course its also the first sign that she's happier in my presence than she was around me and thats the first step toward getting back into a r (as it would be if we were first meeting) the question is at what point do I have to act to say ok we need to make a decision here? Thats not something i have any intention of doing but its not something I have a clear idea on. I'm therefore going to my default "working" scenario.

Does that make any kind of sense?


M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
W coming closer, talking 4/2015
Piecing 5/2015
Moving in again 6/2015