Hi Edz, I think you're right about the R talk - and best to stick with the lovingly distant approach. If your W has had a change of heart, even if she's an internal sort of person, she's going to let you know. And even if she doesn't tell you directly, it will become pretty apparent from her behaviour I think.

For now, you are having some positive interactions, which is great. However, 'thing' is somewhere in the background, plus your W seems to want to be 'friends' rather than more, just now, from what you describe. Also, I think there is still some withdrawing going on.

So, whilst there may be some positive things going on, there's much to be cautious about. And starting a R talk would be throwing caution to the wind.

Hope you enjoyed your fish and chips. I had pasta with homemade mushroom sauce. Feeling a bit sad and lonely tonight. H is on my mind. Had to stop myself from texting him earlier. I was just thinking to myself - I felt ok last night, so hopefully I'll feel ok tomorrow night. But tonight I just feel a bit cr@ppy - oh well...

Last edited by Toots; 02/05/15 08:53 PM.

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Me 48 H 46
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