Excellent: you got a final answer. You're lucky you got such clarity so early because most of us get a "We'll get back together if you are consistent with your changes." or "I want to be separated for 8.5 months, pretend it's over and then we'll get back together." and then we go on for months not knowing if they told us the truth, if they could really predict the future. But in your case, she knows the future, she never changes her mind, so let's move on.
Mozza, this really made me laugh! Love it! I guess we share the sarcastic sense of humor.
Barry you are so LUCKY! You have amazing vets on here giving you good feedback and advice. I see a pattern in what they are all telling you. Do you?
And yes I too think you need to examine your attitude and responses on this forum. People are giving you amazing advice and feedback. And you come back with pitiful replies sometimes like "sorry to vent". We are all venting on here and whining and complaining. That's fine. What people are trying to say to help you is what are you going to do to get Barry back on track? They are trying to help you see ways you might be thinking in the wrong way or doing things in the wrong way that aren't going to help your situation.
Read back in the threads. Some of these people who are giving you tough love were the recipients of it themselves. And many are in a better place today whether reunited with their spouse or just happier and healthier. People are trying to help you. You are so lucky to have so many great people following your situation. Take advantage of this and ask their advice, take their advice! I wish I had so many vets helping me with my sitch.
Good luck Barry!
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
