Sadie - Hot and Cold

[Sadie13]

Checking here, trying to post when I can...hopefully some of you will chime in with advice soon:)

-My question today - What do you do when your SO's lie to you?

For the past few days, things have been...okay...around here I guess. I have been pulling back. Not calling him when he goes out. I ended up watching the Superbowl alone even though we had planned to watch together...he went out on his motorcycle and ended up at a bar I guess, and didn't tell me he wasn't coming. I didn't say anything when he got home, even though I was really irritated...but anyway, I've been not asking any questions. Just kind of staying quiet. And it does work, as far as keeping the peace I guess. When I pull back, he will call me...he will follow me to the next room...he will ask me for things/attention/food.

This morning he got out of bed to call his mother...I stayed in bed, but overheard some of his conversation...there was one part where he said he would fly to his home (in another country) on his birthday, which is in about one month. A pause, and the next sentence he said was, no I think it's better for her (me) to stay here and take care of the house.

Now, I had heard him mention to other people about traveling on his birthday there. I don't know exactly why he is so set on that date, but all of his "friends" (emotional affair partners) are there, and I have a gut feeling one of them promised him something for his birthday...a party, a "present"...who knows.

When he came back into the room he asked me to make him breakfast...after a few minutes I asked if everything was okay with his mother, he said yes...then I asked what he was saying about his birthday...and he pretended to misunderstand (buying some time to think of an answer), then he said, oh my sister needed my birthday to install something blah blah blah...which very obviously not true. I didn't say anything. But I felt so bad...I still do. I want to cry at the thought what he could and probably will do there.

So is that all I can do when he lies to me? Stay calm and do nothing?