Big thumbs up to that last sentiment.

My wife always said that setting me a deadline was easy but pointless, you have to make me believe the deadline then I'll get it done.

I think its the sane here, the WAS is gone they've said it and in mist cases act it, but until we believe it we don't fully move on.

If it doesn't feel right then don't do it - whatever happens you have to be true to your moral self.

I'm not sure I agree with 'more complex' though.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress