How to answer the "How are you?" question

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Hey, TicToc.

When W asks, you look her in the eyes, smile, and say: "Great!" If you can't muster "great," then at least throw out a cheerful "good!"

Have you read DR? If not - and even if so - look for sandi's rules here on the boards if you haven't already; they're pinned at the top of the Newcomers forum, I believe.

While you're on moderation, you won't be able to chat with us in "real time." But keep posting, even though your posts will be delayed. You'll be off moderation soon.

Meanwhile, tell us more about the problems in your M that you think may have contributed to W looking for happiness outside your M. What could OM be providing her that you weren't?

And give us some background. How long have you been M? How many kids, and what are their ages?