If we own the story then we can write the ending

[Andy125]

ok so its a new day. As I have been saying for the past month or so, "new day new start make the most of it." Yesterday evening turned out to be really tough. I helped my W pick up the bunk beds for my daughters, and move it to her new place. I know some of you here would disagree with helping her at all. I however felt that in an effort to be friendly I would give her a hand. So smile on my face and being as chipper and helpful as I could muster I helped her do it. It all went well and we moved it without any incidents. She was very thankful for the help, to include driving the large conversion van she rented to move it all. I did not anticipate how crappy I was going to feel after it was all said and done and she had retreated down to her room in the basement. Simply put I think I was mentally, and physically exhausted and went to bed feeling totally drained.

Wow Linda how are you handling that whole situation? I can imagine that has to be really tough, and I agree great reason to get remarried. Why is it that they can't seem to see that what they really need to do is get some help.... like real pro help?? It seems so obvious! I guess maybe that is my Mr. fixit side coming out. That list is a great one, and can I say... ummm yes to all of it. So many things on that list apply to me. I think that I am slowly working through acceptance to many of these things... and it is certainly hard work. Guilt in not stepping in the save my W has bee definitely a struggle. Like I think I told Cadet, letting go... of pretty much everything is probably the Key 180 that I can do. I'm always trying to fix things, or trying to minimize damage. I've been working on stoping that behavior, and taking that energy and refocusing it on healing myself.

Has she moved out yet? Nope not yet, supposedly in a little over a week will be the big move day (the 14th or 15th). Unfortunately I don't think that my lawyer has sent hers an email yet, as he said he would BCC me in on it. So no fallout from it yet... but I have no doubt that there will be, at least I'm preparing for it. Both of my D's are doing the best that they can i think. I actually got an email from a mutual friend of ours suggesting a counselor for my D8 to see. I felt it was out of the blue and when I inquired found out that her and my W had talked about it. Naturally I brought it up with my W on our way to her new place last night, and came up with a plan is my D8 expresses desire to do this.

OK so another question I have to put out there. What the heck do I do about my wedding ring? Do I keep wearing it? Do I take it off? My W took her's off before she actually filed the D paperwork months ago. Up until now I have kept mine on... but I'll be honest with you I'm starting to feel a little silly with it on.... I mean why? Now I'm sure that Cadet will jujitsu this question back onto me in someway But I'm curious if taking it off means I'm saying its done. If there is a question of why take it off... again I feel a bit silly with it on, if the other person and what it represents is gone/lost/ checked out right now. Also I can't help but think right now, as I sit across from a pretty woman, taking it off lets me go and talk to her. Am I wrong in this thinking? Like always your guy/girls impute is always welcome.

Side note its amazing how going for a run helps to clear my mind and brighten my mood.... even if it was on a treadmill cause it bitter cold out today. Operation AFSD continues with positive results... I got hit on in class yesterday