I'm new... wife announced on-going EA about a month ago. She says our marriage is over, says she has decided to leave but is taking her time (not rushing into it) out of respect for our long M (probably mainly cos we have kids). I have been using LRT after an initial week of crying / I love yous / present buying etc (Oh dear!).
Anyway, I'm now trying to GAL. Comms have been minimal since the first week, with the odd friendly chat here and there. Even just being friendly with her feels weird (I don't want her as a friend, I want to work on saving our marriage! But she's in love with someone else so has no interest in saving our marriage).
I think I'm doing okish with the LRT, but one thing that I'm really unsure on is whether to be honest when W asks "How are you doing?". Truth is although the GALing is definitely stopping me fall into a despair, and I am enjoying plenty of moments during my days (work, exercise, evenings out with friends etc)... I am very very far from being OK!!!
My answer is usually "What do you expect?!". But I can then proceed to have a civil / friendlyish chat. What do you guys reckon is best, pretend to be completely fine? Seems weird, but if that's best then I'll do it.
