Thanks Mozza, great advice. I will start posting on other peoples threads, even if it's just encouragement. I lost my confidence to advise anyone, as I DB'd successfully, so I thought and now I'm back to square one.

I wonder if I should walk away? I wonder if I want to DB and reconcile? Either way I'll DB.

I still love W and am very attracted to her. We have been remarried 7 years and we had been closer than we had ever been. Two glitches set us back, being sexually attacked by a coworker triggered PTSD and Major Depression and then her relapse on pain killers in Sept 2014.

My situation is heavy like you said, so I have to find more things to GAL, which enhances my mood and self confidence.

M 53
W 44
D25 D20 S22
PA 10/95
BD abt 2k EA
BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05
DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005
XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005
Remarried 12/28/07
BD 12/18/14
Sep living together