June don't give up. I've sat on my own and just flipped through my phone many times. Also sitting at the bar you can chat with the bartender. It's important to get out. No one is going to knock on your door. You never know who you may meet. In the Summer I sat outside my local Starbucks with my dog and chatted with all kinds of people. It feels good just to be around others even if it's just a hello or a smile.
I'm getting ready for date number two. Feeling a little nervous! He's meeting me close to my place at a fun and popular Restaurant. It helps to be in your own environment. Lol
My SD texted me today saying " I hear you went on a Date. Grandma is a chatterbox and told me. I want the deets ( kid talk for details lol) She is very happy for me.
Will return with an update later!
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
So I had an enjoyable second date. He seems to like me. Got the how can you still be single. Ugh...I get so freaked out. It's hard to let anyone get close. Especially after someone cheats on you. I'm trying to open up. It's hard. We went for dinner and drinks....we split the bill. I'm fine being independent but honestly it made me feel like he was kinda cheap. He asked ....I accepted....he seems to like me..,if he paid it would have made more of an impression. Guess I'm kinda old fashioned that way. Time will tell the tale
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
Karma, glad you had fun again! I agree with you on the tab, guess I'm old fashioned too.
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
I met a someone today for a coffee date. It went really well lasting three hours. We are going on a second date tomorrow night.
After that I went shopping and was starving so I went out for a bite at a local restaurant. I sat at the bar and there were a couple of other women sitting and having a drink and dinner too. We started chatting and they said they were a part of a group of women 16-20) that meet up and go out together. They took my number and me theirs. So I can be come part of their group.
This is such a gift. I am happy on my own but would love the option of having a BF to go out with or friends a couple times per week. I had such a great experince today...feeling very blessed. So glad I had the courage to go out.
This I'm sort of doing with married friends. And hooking up with a couple of others each week. We just have dinner and light social conversations.
One of my work mates her hubby really has some great views on stbx. Talks of how bloody selfish he was, which was my complaint. Even as man the fact he see it as selfish warms my heart. One of those random topics that come up. We have fun sometimes I come home early sometimes late. But that is ultimately my choice. If I go and they leave and I get talking to others they go and I stay. If not and I leave they are fine. NO DATES AS YET, but that's coming!
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M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
V. I am trying to relax. Lol I get really scared when I start dating. I know myself well enough to know this. I have been in daily text contact with my date. He is not pushy just checks in. He's finishing his work set after tonight and I have one more night in mine. Will hopefully see him on our days off for a third date. Will up date.
I've still been working out, went to visit my daughter ( took SD), enjoyed an evening at my brothers watching the Grammys.
SD knew I was on a date and was very happy for me. She is 13 now and even though she was hopeful when her D. Seemed to be getting closer to me a couple months ago she doesn't want him dating and me not. She told me she told him I was dating. She said now he can think about you dating. I didn't know he knew. That means he knew I was on a date when he texted me. What an a$$. He's been dating someone now since Dec but can't leave me alone as I try to move forward.
Ggrass I am happy to just hang out with friends too. Dating would be the icing on my already wonderful cake if it works out. I've realized I quite like living on my own. I would like to date a couple times a week and maybe have a long term relationship. I don't however see myself remarrying or living with someone again.
Jbird thanks for checking in. : )
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
We kept some stuff separated due to being married before, each of us wanted long term but wanted it done differently.
For me this time will be really different, like you would love some one male to go out with occasionally perhaps 2x per week. My take on that was the few blokes I had eyes on that I found interesting, I wanted to just get to know a bunch of them.
Not sure if that's disrepectful, I know what the young set do and that is not me!
Ons, lots of regular Freinds with benefits? um no lots of plutonic mates yeah, can do that.
I do not need to be cheated on again. I am struggling to figure out where that line is and what's socially ok and what's not.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I hear you Ggrass. I'm really cautious too. I've spent a good part of my life from childhood on taking care of people in my life. Now I want to enjoy my life and do things that I want to do.
I'm the same as u kinda old school when it comes to being intimate. ; )
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
