You should not feel ashamed that having your life shredded by the person who promised to protect it would have mental and emotional repercussions. It would be more appropriate to be ashamed if it didn't. Use the medicine. It's not forever.
Have you seen a lawyer? It gives great peace of mind.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15