Jbird#2 Separated Living Together Need Advice

[Mozza]

Your situation is very heavy, Jbird. From here, you appear to be dealing with it with poise. You're doing many things right, including keeping your calm.

I haven't read all your previous thread, but I noticed that many people have asked you if you were sure you wanted to stay married to your W. It's entirely your choice. Sometimes, people miss the opportunity to have a good thinking about this, just because they didn't make the choice to S. But you have the gift of time and I'll encourage you to think of the many ways in which your life might unfold, especially now that your kids are mostly grown.

Should I ask the kids to be kinder to their mother?

The advice around here is usually not to get involved in the relationships of other people. The best thing would be not to get in between your children and their mom. It does sound like D25 has unhealthy ways of dealing with difficulties, but she's a grown-up now.

I see you started a new thread, but it shouldn't make a difference in the attention you get. Quite the opposite, it makes it harder to go back in your sitch and understand recent events. Stick with this one thread until you reach 100 posts. You've been patient and updating regularly, which is good. Consider posting more on the the threads of others. You will become better known and people will be curious about your sitch and will visit your threads and start commenting.