My hat's off to you, bro. I just ... man, I just can't even.
I can empathize. That's about all I can say right now.
I did want to echo sandi's idea, though, that you consider bringing up setting boundaries around the discussions ... and one boundary is that you won't listen to all that OM-diarrhea in your ear.
That's just ... no. Whew.
Have you tried that with W?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014