SRD, Bond is good at tough love. Starsky is good with affairs. I'm gng to have to agree sith Starsky here. It's absolutely relevant to the text. Telling her that you "Just confirmed her little story of where she has been today is rubbish as well. She'd left her bag open when I was upstairs. You don't take a wash bag to a business meeting" would be score keeping. Keeping a tally of every single infraction is also score keeping. Gathering information about her truth telling and sharing it with the group trying to help you is not.

I would sit on this one, you have to be careful with information gathering because often the information gathered can mean many different things. Trust me, I am the king of the runaway vivid imagination. Deal in truth as much as possible.

If I may also suggest, part of paving the road home smooth includes her being able to save face when the time comes. It's going to be very hard to do that if you have shared intimate details of the separation with all of your "mates". Stop this practice now. Zip the lips. The reason is 2 fold really. You don't need them making remarks, being cold to her, or being unsupportive of your wife when she returns and 2) you absolutely don't need any grief, or unsupportive attitudes when you guys get into the piecing process. One of the biggest things you can do for your marriage is surround yourself with other healthy marriages and people who support marriage.

Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3