And that's where I fall down. It's one thing to work on my anger when im not actually triggered, it's another thing in the heat of battle. I've been able to take deep breaths on occasion and get things under control, but not always.
Our therapist did suggest using a time out signal when either one of us felt ourselves starting to spiral. It's worked well. It allows either one of us to use that signal, stop the spiral and withdrawal physically for a set period of time without the other one feeling abandoned.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
