If any posters have any suggestions about how to get my anger in check; I'm all ears
I haven't read all of your sitch, but I have read quite a bit. What have you done to let go of your anger in terms of personal growth? I ask this, because 1. I'm a guy, 2. I believe in my Scottish/Irish heritage :), and 3. that's what I learned from my father thanks to an angry home. Can you truly identify the source of the anger? There are many times when it comes from a source that we do not easily see in the heat of the moment.
I provide therapy for a lot of men that have anger issues. A lot of the times it plays out in their Rs with GFs or Ws. I can tell you with full confidence that the clear majority of them come to the understanding that the anger stems from something inside of themselves and not their SOs.
For example, I worked with this vet who served two tours in Iraq. He was a combat medic and now an OR nurse. He would get so frustrated and angry with his W and D2, and they entered into couples therapy. I worked with him on the side. As we progressed through therapy and began to identify the start of his anger issues, we came to the understanding that it was a remnant from responsibilities in the military. When something happened, whether it was a firefight or being brought someone teetering on the brink of death, he had to react immediately, take control, and work towards results. Consequently, he became impatient and intolerant to indecisiveness and not following directions. Take a guess what most of the problems with him and his W were...
As you can see from that, he thought it was simply because his wife didn't see the importance of what he was saying. Instead, he wouldn't give her the opportunity to do so. Really think about what it is.
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Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
