My goodness! You've been a busy woman! I'm sorry you had to leave where you where staying, but it might be for the best if the woman is slightly unhinged. Where was your brother during all of this? Is he afraid to speak up and tell her that you could stay there? Is he a wuss?
You'll find something soon and yes, also you'll figure things out as to what you want to do. Your ship lost its way and once you get your footing again, you'll settle down and decide what to do.
As for your S21, he's a grown man and he may like it over at his father's place for now, but he won't be there for very long. It will get too crowded and he's not going to want to bring his dates there and have his privacy invaded. Give that arrangement a bit of time...he'll move out. He's just using his dad and his place for the time being.
Congratulations to S18 for passing his driver's test. I'm sure he's on top of the world about this.
Lou, mlcers do all sorts of things, i.e, open up accounts w/the op, add them to the car insurance, add them to their credit cards, etc. It's all part of this "happily ever after" deal and they do think that this new relationship will last for awhile, if not forever...but how can it? It's a house built on sand and lies. Eventually, they both have to drop the good behavior act and go back to their old habits. Leopards don't change their stripes at the end of the day. Once the euphoria wears off, they begin to see the warts and flaws in each other and guess what. Reality sets in. Some will wake up and say what the heck have I done and divorce and/or leave the op, others will opt to stay w/them and be miserable because they've messed up so badly and then you have others that will do everything possible to right the mistakes and try to win the spouses back. Which one will be your h? We don't know because his story isn't finished yet.
BTW, they have to convince everyone, including themselves that they are happy and have a wonderful life. I find when they keep saying that repeatedly, there has to be something there that isn't quite right. Why keep saying it? Your actions should speak louder than words...right?
I do hope things settle down for you and you find something soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
