I'm sorry your daughter is struggling. You are such a wonderful mother trying to find answers and doing everything you can for her. I hope the tests give you some real answers.
Is the school putting some behavior plans in place for her. Often they use cookie cutter methods. Be sure to have input there.
Im glad your h was reasonable about your requests regarding your daughter.
Ok, so, about the talk.
While I think it would be good for you to have one, you do not have to, S.
You can just deal with it with the lawyers and leave it at that. If he doesnt like it, too freakin bad. This is what he wants.
I think you have made this talk really big in your head. I know he can intimidate you and make you feel like you're crazy. I lived with one of those for years.
I remember the first time I found my voice. He was starting to spew. I am only 5 feet tall. So, I stood up on my tiptoes and put my hand out and said, "It's not ok to speak to me in that way." And out I walked with a flip of my hair. I was literally shaking. He stood there, mouth hanging open, for what seemed like minutes.
And then I went into my room and did the happy dance. I really did. Boy, did that open up a whole new world for me. Taking back my power and my worth.
He tried to spew one other time after that..and I did the same thing and said, "I told you once to before that it's not ok to speak to me in that manner. Whenever you start to do it, I am walking away." That was it. Never happened again.
Take back your power, S. He is just a person. He cant hurt you. Believe that.
