I think one of the benefits of praise, is that you can also praise behaviours that you'd like to see more of. Does that sound like manipulation as I write it? I question everything nowadays!! Susana, this is from a fellow perfectionist, who is trying to relax her standards!
Toots, I know what you mean, I don't think it is manipulative though. I'm opening my mind, I can see what you mean, in the past I would have thought it was manipulative, but if I recall correctly there's a bit in DR where MWD talks about praise and says that people think it can be manipulative but really a lot of human behaviour is manipulative...which makes sense and I agree with!
Toots, how have you gone about being less of a perfectionist? Any suggestions?
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
