I like what you said above about DBing for yourself. That is where I find myself as well. I discussed DBing with my IC this week and she was very supportive. She urges me to take whatever steps I need to get back to myself and I like that.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids