The issue is that my wife wanted to leave then but didn't and now regrets it as she feels she would have been better off.
She said a few times that if she was going to leave she would have done it then as it was 'the perfect opportunity'. (Can't believe I took the reassurance rather than the hint)
But no I don't feel its legitimate.
She has left with 60% of it in cash, plus her car which represents another 20%. The rest got spent in the intervening year and a bit on a house move, paying of credit cards, holidays, carpets etc.
Their grievance also ignores the dynamic of our finances. We were married so our money was shared to do family things. I didn't buy anything for me very much and then mostly off eBay. Let's say 2% of my salary went on stuff that is mine.
Prior to the inheritance my wife had nothing but eyewatering debt which I'd being helping to pay (by paying 100% of the household bills and half the nursery fees). What little capital there was, was all bought to the marriage by me.
Its irrelevant as well because the only way I could have given her more would have been to accept less equity from the house which would have meant me moving. And to hit the figure she inherited after sales expenses etc. I would have had to accept less than half what I put in 5 years ago.
I gave her the maximum I could possibly raise and still keep a (non rented) roof over my head
And just because I'm on this soapbox let's not forget she had an affair and is leaving me. I don't want any if this - I wanted her to stay here and for it all to still be ours.
And SIL got the address wrong, maybe because she has never been there for my W except where she can gain or indulge in sanctimonious outrage.
Yeah - I never liked SIL and am quite angry about this.
Sorry for the outburst.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
