I have been reading this forum for a while now and I thought I would post my story. However, I thought I would post a bit of a back story first:
My W and I have been married for almost 14 years now. She had been a stay home mom ever since S12 was born we also have another S9. She recently went back to work full time, but works nights. I work full-time during the day.
We had a fight back in 11/14 where we both agreed that we needed counseling, so we went separately. Afterwards, we agreed to work on our M. From 11/14 - 12/14 the W was very distant (wouldn't sit next to me and would barely touch me).
So during mid 12/14 we had another discussion and she said she was pretty much done with our M. She reluctantly agreed to try couples counseling, but said that she didn't see how it could work. She also moved her stuff into the spare bedroom.
So from that point until early 1/15 I tried all of the things I shouldn't have: crying, begging, chasing, reasoning. None of it worked. She'd just turn cold and say the nastiest things to me (very unlike her).
I found this site in early 1/15 and have been applying sandi2's rules, which has helped a lot (thanks!). I also got the DB book.
However, I think we got probably the worst MC imaginable! We took a step back from what little progress we had made prior to our first session. In our second session (last week) the W said she plans to move forward with the D.
We had a brief discussion about the D that evening, but it hasn't come up since then (and I'm not going to bring it up).
I'm lost. I don't want to lose my family. I love her and my boys more than anything. I have been reading books, blogs, and even signed up for coaching as well. I hope I can save my marriage!
