Susana (2) - Learning to detach

[susana4]

Susana hopefully i wont offend you. Are you a perfectionist and are you critical of yourself and others? Many who are perfectionistl tend to give kudos followed by some form of criticism. You know there is always room for improvement. Giving compliments should come natural and from the heart. People are fallable. Try and find something good in everyone. You will surprise yourself

Hi Rick, you haven't offended me. I am definitely a perfectionist and very hard on myself. I actually think most of the time with others I take on their mistakes as my own, e.g. If someone I manage makes a mistake I think it's my fault and self criticise my managerial style. So I don't think I normally give others kudos followed by criticism.
Howver I probably have treated H more like myself, I'm ashamed to say. Whereas with friends or colleagues I don't tend to be critical I have been with H in the past.

One of my 180s was not to say anything critical. I am happy with how I've done, I haven't criticised H since December (since I started my 180).

Now I guess I'd like to take it one step further, because I realised its not enough to just not be critical, I would like to be encouraging.